Changed for Good

One of the hardest things for me to process, in my life, is the changing nature of relationships.  I love my friends and family fiercely and it's difficult for me when life takes us separate ways.  I've rarely parted ways with someone on bad terms, but sadly, I have had to walk that road at times.  Whether amicable or antagonistic, it's always a little heart-breaking to accept when a relationship is ended or dramatically altered.

I've been thinking about this truth a great deal in the last few months.  I think I'm beginning to find a way to make peace with relationships that aren't what they once were, and those that aren't what I thought they were.

I wonder how other people embrace this inevitable ebb and flow of life.  I love to gain wisdom from the experiences of others.  If anyone has any wisdom to share, I'm happy to hear it.

Right now, this song keeps echoing in my mind:

from Wicked

I'm limited.  Just look at me.  I'm limited
And look at you, you can do all I couldn't do, Glenda.
Now it's up to you for both of us.
Now it's up to you.

I've heard it said that people come into our lives for a reason
bringing something we must learn
And we are lead to those who help us most to grow
if we let them and we help them in return.
Now, I don't know if I believe that's true
but I know I'm who I am today because I knew you.

Like a comet pulled from orbit as it passes a sun
Like stream that meets a boulder halfway through a wood
Who can say if I've been changed for the better?
Because I knew you, I have been changed for good.

It well may be that we may never meet again in this lifetime
So, let me say before we part
So much of me is made from what I've learned from you
You'll be with me, like a handprint on my heart
And whatever way our story ends
I know you have re-written mine by being my friend

Like a ship blown from its mooring by a wind off the sea
Like a seed dropped by a sky-bird in a distant wood
Who can say if I've been changed for the better?
But, because I knew you I have been changed for good.

And just to clear the air I ask forgiveness for all the things you blame me for
But, then again we know there's blame to share
And none of it seems to matter anymore

Like a comet pulled from orbit as it passes a sun
Like a stream that meets a boulder halfway through a wood
Who can say if I've been changed for the better?
I do believe I have been changed for the better.
Because I knew you
Because I knew you
Because I knew you 
I have been changed for good.

The truth is that everyone we meet helps change, shape and refine us.  So, for all of the relationships I have and have lost, I know I have been changed for good.

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